Acknowledging What Is

One of the first principles in the Family Constellation philosophy taught to us by Bert Hellinger is to simply Acknowledge What Is. Before any attempt at explaining, blaming, interpreting or efforts at healing, we need to just stop and acknowledge the facts as we know them to be. These are the simple truths, the basic realities that must be faced and eventually embraced in order to heal, evolve and move forward in our lives.
 
In The Constellation Approach, we begin with our Family of Origin as the first Constellation within the Ten Universal Themes inherent to all human beings. We initiate our process by saying: “I acknowledge you as my mother, the only mother I have.” “I acknowledge you as my father, the only father I have.” “I acknowledge you as my siblings.” “You are the family I come from.” Then, we sit in silence after acknowledging the truth, the reality of our life and let the thoughts, memories and feelings flow.
 
A Simple Exercise: Imagine your mother, father and siblings in the center of your heart space. Picture them one at a time in your mind’s eye. Perhaps use a family photo. Now, one at a time, using the Words of Empowerment offered above, speak to each of your parents and siblings, aloud or to yourself. Let yourself take time to fully experience what you feel in relation to your loved ones. 
 
A Contemplation: Choose an object or write on a piece of paper the words ‘Corona,’ or ‘Covid-19’ to represent the Coronavirus and place it before you. Look at the object or paper noticing what you feel as well as your thoughts as they arise. Now say, “I acknowledge your presence in our lives.” “I acknowledge your presence in my life.” “I acknowledge that you will be with us for an unknown period of time.”  Finally, these last two statements will help you relate to the Coronavirus in a new way. “You are greater than me.” “I will work with you to change.”  Breathe deeply, let everything happen, including your fears and tears.